My boyfriend is complaining..

[KLM_guy]

Dear therapists,

I am working 9 years now for KLM. There was never a problem with my boyfriend. I used to be away from home a lot, sometimes a week or more. Suddenly he is complaining about my job and being away from home.

But I don't want to give up this job! Dear therapists, what should I do?

[Karen 737]

Hey <font color="pink">Sweetie</font color>!
There are a few questions I'd like to ask before I can go on, as well as the others ...
1. Has something changed recently in your relationship (for example is it more serious?) recently?
2. Is there a cause for him to concern about your job at the moment? (well, duh you may be thinking ...)
3. Why do you think he has a problem?
your <font color="pink"> friend </font color>
<font color="pink">Karen</font color>!

[Doc._K_N_Owitall]

Hi,

Communication is key here.
You two need to take time for a good sit down ... and talk.
He should be able to explain his feelings then.
Then tell him you hear him, even repeat some back.
Then take some time to digest the info you get.
And to consider your response in speech and in action.

These sound like easy tricks but it can be so important.
Good luck, and don't settle for a brush-off.
Worrying in circles is stressful, you should be making steps forward.

[Eagle Eye]

KLM Guy...
I'm no therapist but, is he complaining you are gone too much or not long enough? :grin: :grin:

[Karen 737]

<font color="pink"> [b]Honey! Listen to what we're saying! Talk! Have a nice conversation, weighing the optiions, discuss each others emotions etc. etc. You know the thing I'm saying honey, don't you? And, if the worse happens, get his credit card number, and buy yourself something nice![b] </font color>

[Eagle Eye]

I agree. A little Retail Therapy goes a long way.
Shop. Be happy. :grin:

[Doc._K_N_Owitall]

Sometimes people start to worry about relationships because they did something wrong.
Then they wonder if it is still as strong as it used to be.
And then load this guilt on the partner.

So, maybe he's been dippin' in the honey jar !?!

[Karen 737]

See, its all about Retail Therapy!
Buy yourself something nice, honey to cover the pain for a while, I do!
Then go for all the emotions crap!
Love ya with kisses!
<font color="pink"> Karen/Anastasia Beaverhausen </font color>

[Dr. Loverboi]

Even though my specialty is females :grin:, this answer can be applied to same-sex relationships.

Make opportunities to take him with you, if you can. Then, you can enjoy each other away from home. :wink_2:

Definitely try to make the opportunity to be with him when you're at home. And let him know how much you love him, whenever and wherever possible.

[cutemco]

i had a similar situiation a few years ago, and a wise old flight attendant gave me some good words, actually posed as a question. "HOW CAN I MISS YOU IF YOU NEVER LEAVE?" from that moment on i enjoyed thinking of the welcome home. :grin:

[Studley]

I love that phrase, cutemco! :cool_2:

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. :smile_2:

[Dr. Loverboi]

cutemco, if I'm in a relationship and I've been away tending to my clubs or other interests, on the return flight, I'll usually get set in my mind what I want to do with and more importantly to her :grin: after I land.

I must confess, that it's fun to go away and know that when I cum back, that she's going to jump all over me, LOL.

[cutemco]

well i rarely got mauled upon my return, but i get what you mean. i guess that's why he's an eX! :grin:

[Doc._K_N_Owitall]

See, that's it.
Time for someone new.
There's this large playground out there ... go play !



Doctor Kevin Niles Owitall.

12 years of dissecting small animals
10 years of only listening to females (they didn't want more)
4.5 years producer at the Harpo studios
3 months at the West Virginia U. of Sociology
A home study course in Neural Biology
6 months .. ehm .. observation .. in the Briant mental health facility
An honorary doctorate in psychiatry from my buddy Louis in Costa Rica.