UGH! damned LDR's

[Paddles_up]

OK here's one for you! I have been seeing a guy for about 10 months now via and LDR. At first it was just casual, but recently it has taken one step forward.
This being hunting season, he has taken his vacation to take his sons, father and various other members of his family hunting.
We had made plans to meet in ANC this week. I took a few days off work to accomplish this. I REALLY had to pull some teeth toenails and hair to get the days off since it's a holiday.
When we chatted this morning, he informed me that his company has taken him off his line to fly an extra section to India. That means IF we get to see one another, it will be only for a few hours at the end of the week!
I know it's not his fault but I was really looking forward to this as we haven't seen one another for almost 2 months.
I don't know whether to be hurt, angry or BOTH!
When I chat with him, I'm having a difficult time hiding my disappointment.

What to do? :confus_2:

[Jessica]

Sounds like you're going to have to take a deep breath and do the scariest thing imaginable...talk to him. :shocked: If you really want it to go somewhere, I'm thinking that one of you will have to get the dialogue going at some point...awkward (?) as it may be! Good luck to you honey!

[Audrey]

'Spatcher, I'm going to agree with Jessica on this one. If I were in your shoes, I would want to know if and where things are going after 10 months! More importantly, where do YOU want it to go? Do you want to date others? Does he? Do you both plan on finding a way to increase the time you spend together? Why don't you try aural stimulation as it was brought up in your other post? Talking on the phone might pick things up (perhaps literally?! :grin: ) and give you both the boost you need.

Audrey

[Doc._K_N_Owitall]

It sucks, but ... that's part of the job.
You either live with each others chosen career or you don't.
Decision time. Stop seeing him or move in.
Talking to him won't change anything at this point.
It might temporarily make you feel better, but he's not gonna quit his job.
Or,
if the time gaps are too long for you, you could get some nookie on the side.

[Doc._K_N_Owitall]

Does he make the effort to come down ?

[Dr. Loverboi]

Dispatcher,

Talk dirty to him. Get randy with him. He'll more than make the effort to come down, because he'll want to make the effort to cum, after you get through with him!

[Dr._Playmate]

Yes... but one must also be circumspect in such circumstances! If you can keep yourself emotionally and sexually satisfied - despite the distance - then it might be worth while. If so, be aggressive!

Dr. Penelope Playmate

[Doc._K_N_Owitall]

Soooooo, I take it we are continuing this L D R ?
Hmm ?

[Dr._Playmate]

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Soooooo, I take it we are continuing this L D R ?
Hmm ?



More importantly, if you are continuing it.... How are you managing without frequent sex?

Dr. Penelope Playmate

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[Dr. Loverboi]

Evidently, she's being aggressive! LOL!!! :grin: Good for her.

My prognosis: Life is too short not to try, especially when the goal is worth the attempt. When we look at life, and what it has in store for us, we find that we are only limited by ourselves.

And the adventure of getting there makes it even spicier! :cool_2:

[Paddles_up]

WOW..thanks guys for ALL your input! Things are going great!!! I saw him last week in ONT and planning to see him this week too.
We DID have the talk and finding we both have the same goals and aspirations for one another and the relationship as well.
Unfortunately, I'm bracing myself for a LONG HAUL LDR!
EVERYTHING is absolutely wonderful EXCEPT the distance and the frequency!
&lt;trav, is gonna have to give me some pointers 'cause it's gonna be as long as yours!&gt;

[traveler]

How’d you know I’d be reading this ? :cool_2:
Don’t really know how to make it any easier for ya, though.
The only up-side when you haven’t seen each other for a while is ..
Well, yeah …. It’s the SEX. :blush:
I mean how can you stop touching each other after a drought ?
But I got tired of it after a while, (NO, not the sex, the LDR ! sick people)
and hauled her butt over here permanently.
That’s got to happen eventually, I think.
But as long as that is on the horizon .. you can handle the longing. :shocked:

Of course I still get to go away for a few days .. only to come home again. :pilot_2:

[Paddles_up]

Thanks trav...I just met him again in ONT yesterday!
We've talked about things and know it's going to be a while before either of us can change locations.
When I got there, he gave me a small package. It was a Christmas gift. He gave me a beautiful pair of gold earrings with hearts in the middle!
To be honest with you guys, I haven't received a gift from a guy (this includes my 'ex' and my dad) since my first boyfriend in high school! I ALMOST did "the chick things" and cried!

[traveler]

That would’ve been okay.
We don’t mind knowing we’ve made an impression.
I’m sure he feels the same.
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They sound lovely … but do they match your handcuffs ? </font color> :pilot_2:

[SFOFlyboy]

GOLD handcuffs!?!?!?!?!?!?!

I'm SO jealous!!!!

Where DID they come from? I must register there! hahahahaha

[traveler]

Gold they were not, … but I do seem to remember a slight yellowish taint.
It was after all a question. </font color>
:wink_2:
But maybe some day she will receive those tiny real gold bands.
They are just as restrictive ….
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[SFOFlyboy]

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They are just as restrictive ….



So Trav, how *is* the missus? I see your jaw seems to have healed quite nicely from the last time you said something along these lines.....

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: hehehehehe

[sushiseal]

dispatcher,

I just wanted to wish you the best of luck with your LDR. I'm glad things have improved for you guys recently. I went through one a few years ago when my then-BF decided to move halfway across the world. We tried to keep it going for about 2 years after that, but because his and my sked never coincided, the relationship didn't make it.

Now I'm actually considering another LDR with someone who is yet again halfway across the world (if he'll say yes of course!). Part of my brain says I'm nuts but the other half says I'll never know until I try and that life is too short for regrets. If it happens, I hope I have the strength and courage to keep it going, no matter how long-haul it may be.

Best of luck to you two! :smile_2:

[Dr. Loverboi]

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I'll never know until I try and that life is too short for regrets.



In these times, and with the fast pace of the world, you have to have this outlook on life, in my opinion. Life is only what you make it.

Best wishes :smile_2: to you, sushiseal.

[aldinha]

Loverboi - you are so right!! Sushiseal &amp; DXVixen good luck to you both. I don't think we were put on this earth to be alone. We all need a companion, significant other, lover, whatever to make life more meaningful. Right now I'm significant other, lover, whatever--less. No wonder I'm on this website. Ha-Ha! I need to get off this damn computer and start looking!
:windsock: Any suggestions??

[sushiseal]

Loverboi and aldinha, thanx for your support and encouragement! :smile_2: I'm keeping all fingers and toes crossed on this one... it's been a while since I've felt the "warm fuzzies" for someone so I hope this works out for the best. :laugh:

[Dr. Loverboi]

aldinha, thanks! It's what I'm here for. :smile_2:

[Dr. Loverboi]

You're welcome, sushiseal. :smile_2:

[Paddles_up]

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need to get off this damn computer and start looking



aldinha, the computer is exactly HOW I found mine! He was at sim in DEN and I noticed him online and IM'd him. We began chatting in Feb of last year. We met in March while he was on IOE. At first it was JUST casual, but has since evolved into something "a bit" more serious!

All, I can say is don't "rule out" the computer to find the love of your life....it's been known to happen. Just be cautious. There are ALLOT of wierdos out there....and I have met my share of them! Good luck to ya!

[EXASaab]

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There are ALLOT of wierdos out there....and I have met my share of them




Haven't we all.
:crazy:

[aldinha]

DXVixen - Thanks for the encouragement! I guess I'll have to ask loverboi for some tips on great pickup lines. :grin: Sushiseal - keep us posted. :wink_2:

[Dr. Loverboi]

aldinha,

I can help you with that. :grin: However, I feel that I'll need to give you personalized</font color> instruction, on a one-on-one basis, for maximum effectiveness. :wink_2:

[aldinha]

loverboi - o-o-o-ohh! :blush:That's the best offer I've had in a long time. My place or yours? :wink_2:
:windsock:

[Dr. Loverboi]

aldinha, I've had an insatiable craving for clam chowder for some time now. :grin: Let's start with your place, then you can warm up at my place in MIA. You must be freezing up there in MA. :smile_2:

The lessons we will teach each other will be awesome. :grin:

[sushiseal]

Thanks Loverboi... I'm supposed to go see him next month for a few days. I think by then I'll have a good idea as to where we're headed. I'm hoping he feels the same way about me, but only time will tell...

[Dr. Loverboi]

You're welcome, sushiseal! :smile_2: Keep us posted.