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MikeStu
December 11, 2002, 02:45 AM
WEll, i duuno why i am doing this, but i think about You guys as of my friends, and I just wanted to share some thing with you....
Yesterday my bf and I had to brake up. Well, "had to"....Ok, we've been together for 2 months, maybe not long, but we already felt very strong and deep feelings, were together almost 24/7, had a great time, "perfect couple". Last week was strange, he was kind of sad and absend minded and finally 2 days ago he said that he signed a contract for 8-months-cruise on the ship on Canary Islands, starting in March. Well, i knew about thses plans, but there was no sign of any details, any contracts, any dates etc. so, i wasn't worry, although i said that i don't wanna him to go and maybe we can do something else to earn the money for the new flat etc etc. But he did it. I was really angry! I didn't know what to say, what to do with us... We had very bad argue, full of strong words...
Yesterday he called me and said that we MUST brake up. for us. For our future. That he loves me sooooo much now, and he can't go deeper into this (or any) realtionship, 'cause it will be even more painful for him , for me etc etc. 8 months without each other can change everything, and he doesn't want to think about this. he wants to stop this realtionship now, before it will be stronger etc etc.
I just can't understand that decision, i'd love to spend next 3 months with him, show him, that we can make it etc etc, but he doesn't know what he really wants, and said this decision is the best he can see now.
It hurts....
I don't know what to think...What to do....he said that he love me, but he must forget about his feelings, 'cause he can't hurt himself and me, when he leaves...
Help.

sushiseal
December 11, 2002, 04:11 AM
MikeStu, if he's already made up his mind and won't give you a chance to prove that a relationship is possible, I don't know if there's much more you can do....

You did say that he's not sure what he wants now. That could be good, because it's possible he could change his mind in the future. He'll have to do some serious thinking by himself for the next while, and I hope he decides to get back together. But if he doesn't, then I guess it means you guys weren't meant to be together after all. :frown_2:

You might not feel like it, but please don't put your life completely on hold in the meantime. Keep him in your thoughts, but don't stop going out and doing the things that keep you happy. Best of luck, and hang in there!

Doc._K_N_Owitall
December 11, 2002, 07:23 AM
This sucks !
Plane and simple.
But you have to face it.
It's done.
Mourn.
Talk.
Then slowly start looking to the next phase in your life.
At least you meet many people in your chosen career.
Find the fun and energy you need in those new people.
We feel with you Mike !
Take care.

Doctor Kevin Niles Owitall.

12 years of dissecting small animals
10 years of only listening to females (they didn't want more)
4.5 years producer at the Harpo studios
3 months at the West Virginia U. of Sociology
A home study course in Neural Biology
6 months .. ehm .. observation .. in the Briant mental health facility
An honorary doctorate in psychiatry from my buddy Louis in Costa Rica </font color>

MikeStu
December 11, 2002, 01:33 PM
Next part of the story is that he is not quite sure, if he wants to spend his life with girls or with guys. He used to be with girls before, but for more than 1 year he was dating just men, and he said'that "this is HIS way!". now, he doesn't know, 'cause he thinks about childen etc etc etc. I can't help in that matter! I know he must decide....

cutemco
December 11, 2002, 10:46 PM
mikeSTU
call jerry spinger..free trip to chicago! :grin: :windsock:

MikeStu
December 12, 2002, 01:38 AM
Hey, i already did it!
Watch Jerry on Jan.19th!
LOL

Eagle Eye
December 12, 2002, 11:20 AM
Karen....
Our friend MikeStu needs you!
Give him some pearls of wisdom only you can give :grin: :grin:

SFOFlyboy
December 12, 2002, 11:42 AM
Hey Karen.... show us all that Pearl Necklace that you're sporting....

Oh... pearls of WISDOM!

whoops!

Karen 737
December 12, 2002, 01:12 PM
<font color="pink"> Honey I'm gonna have to get back to you on this one, its tough!
I'm in an internet cafe, and I just used the last of my pepper spray on a pushy Jehovah's Witness!
My maid has run out of vodka, and wants to go home to her family for Christmas, Uh-huh. Ok. Yeah, good idea. Let me get on the horn right now to Air Fat Chance.
Give me some time sugar and I'll work it out!
And honey, my new pearl necklace is lovely, straight from Paris, Stan got a bit mad about that, so was that a necklace or a penthouse?
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Dr._Playmate
December 15, 2002, 09:41 PM
mikeSTU,

Let your heart heal... then go out and find Mr. Transition Guy. Works everytime. I promise.

Dr. Penelope Playmate

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Karen 737
December 23, 2002, 03:05 PM
<font color="deeppink">
Heya Poodle!
MikeStu honey, its time to move on!
Your a great guy, and you shouldn't be worried about that guy, he's in the closet, mind you so am I most of the time, I mean with one like mine (LOL!)
Honey, move on, go shake your money-maker, and tell us all the gossip when you've found yourself a new special friend!
Loving you!
Karen </font color>