Gay or not gay?!

[imdavidflyme]

HELP! i'm stuck...i'm not entirely sure about my sexuality but i think its heading the gay-way. i'm not entirely sure though and the thing i would prefer is if guy who went throught the same thing as me could post to this thread as i really need some help.
thanks
david

[ILiveInaHotel]

Hey David, I am not having this problem, but Ironically I had a friend that did, and what he did, and this is a good Idea, is try both of them out! If you cant decide, try it again! I know its kind of stupid, but If you really cant decide, isn't that about the only way to figure it out??? Good Luck and I hope everything turns out for the better! :tongue_2:

[chartergal]

Hi David,

Sorry you're going through this. I personally can't even imagine having such a dilemma and perhaps that very thought shoud give you some pause.
Most folks do know--early on--"what" they are, in their heart. However, there are some of us who just aren't sure and, some in fact, know that they can't make a decision. Any so any decision is okay in the long run--duh!! :smile_2:) But I do have to add this to my previous poster, I don't advocate his advice.
It sounds fun and playful, but the truth is, your search in those terms will affect a lot of different people and their feelings and so it shouldn't be taken as just a quest for you to find out what you like. How would it feel to the gay guy/straight girl for them to fall for you only to have you say---"Eeeew---that was gross but hey, thanks for the help in defining me." I know that's terribly simplistic, but it's kinda true.
I don't envy your position but think you oughtta think beyond the pure sexual stance when looking at the issue. You are right, you definitely need a fellow guy who has gone through the same thing to advise you. :cool_2:What a toughie....Wishing you the best!
:smile_2:)))

[ILiveInaHotel]

what she says is true, I was only thinking on David's part...sorry chartergirl, I was being shallow and being one sided :crazy:

[Eagle Eye]

It is possible you are bi-sexual. Talk with others who are/have gone through the same mixed emotions. There is nothing wrong with being who you are, just be happy! :grin:

[traveler]

I really don’t understand this confusion. (sorry).
Maybe some day I’ll sit down with someone, have a drink and get the process explained to me.
Maybe I’m just naïve.
I always figured you like the people you like and you don’t like the people you don’t.
And in the bedroom you just do whatever you want and what he, she or they will let you get away with.
Enjoy your flavour of the moment, smile at the memories and forget the regrets.
(Within the boundaries of responsibility).

[Number1]

mmmm, common one a few guys have asked when down route. I advise you live the way you want to live, party away and let the (!) part take its course. I would advise you in confiding in a known Gay friend who may have his own desires in mind more than yours. Try approaching a gay couple and express your question but make it clear from the start that you are not looking for anything but advice.

Don't worry, it is common to be curious. I am not Gay but I am pro Gay. I have no problem with what the crew get up to or anyone to be honest. Good Luck anyway.

Kev
FO :tongue_2:

[Paddles_up]

David,

It is possible you are bi-sexual.


I'm with Eagle Eye on this one, there's NOTHING wrong with being "switch hitter" as long as you keep others feelings and safety in mind! :wink_2:

PS Happy batting! :windsock:

[SwissJumbolino]

Hi there!

I am not a sex specialist nor a psychiatrist nor even a good adviser sometimes, but here's what I think :

I knew I was gay since I was a child. Of course, I didn't have a word for it, but I knew I was very different from other boys. But that's just me, and you are probably not living this the way I was when I was a teenager.

I would recommend you just do what your feelings tell you. Have sex with the person that you love. GIRL OR GUY IS NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT . As long as you're happy, and making that someone special happy too, I think it's great.

Good luck

[EM07525]

hey there imdavidflyme
As a former rainbow resource centre peer phone counselor all I have to say is, your still exploring your feelings "sexually" towards individuals of the same and opposite sex.
One of the most important pieces of advice I've always found is to NOT label yourself, not yet anyway. you are still exploring. And don't allow anyone else to lable you either, no one can make a decision as to who you are except you. although I personally feel that sexuality is not a choice one does have to make a decision as to how they wish to define themselves. Once you are comfortable then you, and only you, may "label" yourself, if you so wish (i.e. through coming out)
Once you have come to a comfortable decision about who you are and coming out is something you wish to do then it's time if you wish.
Hey, this is all I've got for you without more information. just remember love is the best thing ever no matter who it's with. :smile_2:
Have a great time finding yourself....it can be as much fun as frustrating! but one seems to come with the other. :grin:
P.S. I love your nick name, a homage to national airlines of the United states perhaps?
"I'm Barbara Fly me!" campaign :grin:

[richkiwi]

Hi
Take time on this one and dont label yourself gay or straight. Look into yourself and workout what you are attracted to be it male or female .This is a hard one i struggled with this 1 for a while .
Cheers
Rich :plane:

[Gypsy_Guy]

I agree with the others.

Take your time. Don't rush into anything nor allow others to make the decision for you. Human sexuality is such a complex, but yet profound aspect of life. Keep your options open and venture out to what this world has to offer. Don't limit yourself to what you can and cannot have. Some where deep down within you, you have an idea of your private desires. At times, it helps to have others confuse the hell out of you. :smile_2: It brings us closer to who we are. Enjoy the both world for right now. Besides, who said you have to be one or the other? :wink_2:

Best of luck to your soul searching journey. Find some good friends to offer support and comfort when you need it most.